Don’t be afraid to get the help you need
You can only avoid your grief for so long, before it sneaks up and eats away at the best parts of your heart. The healing only starts when you find the strength to face the pain and accept that it’s too heavy a load to carry if you try to do it on your own.
You need to put it down and lean on a friend or two. You’ll never be the same, so don’t pretend that’s possible. But someday, you will find yourself crying less at the thought of this awful loss and smiling more often at the notion of what will be. This person touched your life in a way that you will never forget, and your heart will grow stronger in knowing that. Eventually, the grief will grow lighter. I know this is true, because it is what happened to me.
So, let go of your fear of failure or of making a mess or inconveniencing other people. Forget about what you thought was important. Your world has caught fire and shattered and splintered. It is so broken that the smoke will leave you breathless, choking, tearstained and lost.
But do not run from it. Get up, get out, get help. No one will ever begrudge you trying to save your own life.
Places like The Center for Grieving Children help you make the healing connections that will help you move forward. Don’t be afraid to get the help you need.
Darcie Rudolf, MA
Family Services Clinician